How can we warm Things up
How do we talk to someone when we feel hurt, anger, frustration, desperation or betrayal ?
We all know what warms our partners heart to help them recognise we care, we are present, we are committed
When we are angry or hurt we can often do the opposite over a period of time to protect ourselves and prevent the other person from seeing our compassion
If we are to move ahead in our relationships, we need to have goodwill and intentionality
If this sounds simple it is because the simple things are often the most effective and that which we forget to consider.
At the start of the relationship we tell the person what we value and appreciate then as time continues we slowly stop
When you feel at a complete loss for how to improve your situation at home or work, think of 3 things you could do to improve.
Return to the small, specific and easy to accomplish, nobody needs advice to know what works best, what is most appreciated by your partner. There is no expert who knows someone better than you, a person simply
Needs to start and sticking with it that is hard.
We all focus in what the other person is doing to us not for us.
If you’re struggling in your relationship increase your ratio of positive to negative statements.
If you’re being or feeling attacked, learn to voice your hurt:
Know that many daughters hurt their mothers and many fathers hurt their sons far too frequently in life because they expect far too much from them. Daughters and sons alike conversely expect far too little from their fathers.